The Regulate Lab is the emotional education you should have learnt in school, taught now for your adult, conscious life.
The Regulate Lab is the emotional education you should have learnt in school, taught now for your adult, conscious life.
For cycle breaking women who refuse to pass their childhood patterns on.
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You’re smart, self aware and doing “the work”.
But your nervous system is still on a rollercoaster.
This is Probably what your life feels like
You might notice:
the same arguments on repeat with your partner, family or friends
you either people please or shut down, then replay the conversation all night
you know your triggers but still get hijacked in the moment
you feel responsible for everyone else’s emotions and exhausted from holding it all
your body swings between anxious, wired, overthinking and numb, checked out, scrolling
you promise yourself “next time I’ll handle it better”… and then you don’t
you can see the patterns your parents handed down and you’re scared you’ll pass them on too
You’re not broken.
You’re patterned.
Your nervous system was wired in rooms you did not choose.
You learnt to survive.
Now you’re ready to live.
- to feel calmer and more steady in your body, even when life is messy
- to respond with clarity, not snap, freeze or spiral
- to set boundaries without a three day guilt hangover
- to stop attracting the same dynamics in love, work and friendships
- to feel safe being fully you, not just the “easy” version of you
- to trust your decisions instead of outsourcing them to everyone else
- to know you are not passing the same patterns on to your kids or future kids
- to live a life that feels regulated, spacious and in flow, not just “fine”
That is what The Regulate Lab™ is here to support. A more grounded, emotionally regulated way of being you, day to day.
What You Actually Want
You just haven’t been shown how to actually change them yet.
The Regulate Lab™ is for you if you want to:
- break the generational cycles and trauma you grew up in
- upgrade your childhood pattern blueprint instead of repeating it on autopilot
- unlearn coping mechanisms like numbing, avoiding and suppressing
- stop shutting down, overthinking or exploding when things get hard
- embrace your emotions and learn to hold, heal and process the difficult ones
- learn a new language of communication so you can express your feelings, boundaries and needs clearly
- regulate your nervous system so you feel calmer, safer and able to choose differently to your parents
- upgrade your belief systems so you can actually live the life you want, not the one you were handed
This is for the Cycle Breaker in the Family
If you’re the woman in your family who’s quietly said “it ends with me” this is your space.
- emotional education you should have learnt in school
- somatic and nervous system tools you can actually use in the moment
- a compassionate, regulated environment to practise new ways of responding
You learn to regulate:
- your emotions
- your reactions and responses
- your nervous system when you are triggered
- your self talk when you go into shame or blame
- your relationships and boundaries
- your decisions in love, work and life
- your pace, so you stop swinging between all in and burnout
Regulate does not mean shutting your feelings down.
It means feeling them safely and choosing what you do next.
What is The Regulate Lab
- emotional reactions that feel out of control
- patterns you can see but cannot seem to shift
- constantly abandoning yourself to keep the peace
- feeling like your body is running the show when you are triggered
We slow everything down, regulate your system and give you tools so you can:
- respond instead of react
- choose differently in the moment
- feel safer in your own body, even when life is loud
What We're Solving
The Regulate Lab Method™
We move through my 5 part method:
Reveal – See the pattern
We will map your emotional and behavioural loops and finally see your Cycle Map clearly.
Regulate – Safety first
You will learn somatic tools to ground and soothe your system so change feels safe.
Rewire – We will work with the roots
You will gently work with shadow, beliefs and old stories that keep you stuck.
Rehearse – Practise new choices
You will try on new responses in a supported space and in your real life.
Rise – live as the new you
Integrate your work into real life, upgrade your Subconscious belief system, and anchor a more regulated, grounded version of you.
REVEAL
REGULATE
REWIRE
RISE
REHEARSE
Meet Your Mentor
I’ve spent the past decade studying the body, the mind, and the patterns that quietly run our lives.
But honestly… this work started long before the certifications.
I grew up absorbing beliefs and behaviours that didn’t always support the woman I wanted to become.
I repeated the same arguments.
Got stuck in the same emotional loops.
Even broke up with my now-husband because I didn’t understand my own triggers or nervous system.
When I retrained in my 30s - yoga, somatic therapy, nervous system work, subconscious reprogramming - everything shifted.
Life felt lighter. My relationships softened. I felt more grounded, more aware, more me.
And when my mum passed, it became crystal clear:
I don’t want to spend my life running on old programming.
And I don’t want other women to either.
Now I help women make sense of their patterns, feel safer in their bodies, and take small steps towards a life with more ease, balance, and freedom.
If you’re ready to understand what’s really been keeping you stuck - and move through it with support - I’d love to guide you.
You don’t have to do this alone.
Phoebe's Expertise
12 Years in Holistic Healing + Therapy
Founder of The Self Care Space
Emotional Freedom Technique Practitioner
700HR+ of Yoga teacher trainings
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ISMETA Certified Somatic Therapist
Rebirthing Breathwork Facilitator
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Background in subconscious reprogramming + embodiment coaching
Specialised in nervous system regulation + emotional resilience
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